Blame yourself for everything that happens in your life. It’s the best way to become ia better person.
Maybe “blame” isn’t the best word, so let’s say, “take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.” I was just doing some more thinking about my money being stolen (A Robbery) and realized I default to blaming myself for everything that goes “wrong”. With more thought, I’m kinda proud of this.
When something goes against my expectation or an incidence happens like my money gets stolen, I take on the responsibility. I almost never blame other people and instead understand that I did something I shouldn’t have.
Sure, it’s my apartment and I should be able to leave my money where I please, but I should’ve been more cautious, taken it to the bank earlier, hidden it, whatever. With the loneliness and relationship struggles I went through a few weeks ago, I could’ve blamed other people, but I decided to reflect on my own behavior. It was foolish to grow so attached so quickly, to read into everything, to act differently than my true self, to put so much stock into one thing.
Blaming other people is easy. Doing this takes all the weight off your shoulders and allows you to move along without changing anything. It’s nt your problem, it’s theirs. They caused all this, you were just responding accordingly. You did nothing wrong and still got burned. The universe must hate you.
You know what’s not easy? Taking full responsibility. Being able to experience hardship and fully embrace it as a lesson. Looking at yourself and the mirror and understanding where you went wrong. Not judging yourself or getting angry, but acknowledging your faults and doing something about it.
Blaming everyone and everything else gets you nowhere. Taking responsibility can make you better. When you understand where you messed up and consider ways to change it if presented again in the future, you’re headed in the right direction. Blaming yourself is the way to learn from your mistakes.
As the saying goes, life doesn’t happen to us, it happens for us. So stop blaming everyone except yourself. Take responsibility and fix it.
October 3, 2024
