The other day, I was asked why I enjoy doing challenges like 75 Hard so much. At first I said it’s because these challenges make life more fun and exciting. When they asked for the more deep rooted answer, it got me thinking, and I came up with something interesting.
It’s no surprise I love doing outlandish challenges throughout the year – Dopamine Fasts, 75 Hard, strict diets, a blog a day, no caffeine, going vegan… I genuinely love changing my routine in crazy ways to see what I’m capable of. But why?
I think it’s because when I was growing up, I was often praised for the things I did. The times I remember were while playing baseball and my art. I never believe I was good at baseball and I was never happy with my artwork, so hearing how amazing I was at these things never felt right to me. Because of that, I’ve always wanted to do things that make me feel proud of myself. If no one were there to witness them, I’d continue doing them because they made me feel good.
I attempt challenges like 75 Hard because I want to prove to myself I’m strong and disciplined. When I tell people about it and they’re shocked by the commitment, I know I’m doing something important for my development. When I paint, I create art that I’m happy with. There are tons of unfinished pieces in my apartment that the world will never see. I try to be the best barista I can be not so other people recognize me, but so I feel good about what I’m doing.
This self reflection solidifies my opinion on the pointlessness of external validation. No matter what other people say, if you’re not happy with what you create, you’re not finished. People can say you’re in great shape over and over, but if you’re not happy yet, you should keep going. This isn’t to say there aren’t limits. Sometimes perfectionism gets in the way and poor self image prevents you from feeling good.
My mindset is this – challenge yourself and produce work that you’re proud of. Be proud of who you are now with everything you have. Always try to be better, but never beat yourself up over these things.As long as you’re trying and feel good about what you’re doing, you’reon the right path.
October 10, 2024
