To receive the answer you need, you hve to ask the question you don’t want to ask.
You cannot be afraid to ask the questions you need to ask. The only way to get the answers you need to hear and to make any progress, you need to be confident enough to ask. This shit is scary, I know it and I’m sure you do too. There are answers we all need, but in order to get them, we have to find the courage to ask tough questions.
My mind has been all over the place and I’ve been dodging the simple fact that all of it could be over if I just asked one simple question. I’ve been terrified to do so because I’m afraid of getting an answer I don’t want. I have so much fear of rejection, of something going wrong, ruining something good, and potentially upsetting someone and myself. The fact is, it’s better to get it out and get an answer than keep doing what I am now.
You’re not always going to get the answer you want. Things don’t always work out in your favor and you have to learn to accept that. At this point, you should realize you can handle anything life throws at you, whether it’s what you desired or what you don’t. Knowing this, you should face life head on and never hesitate with asking people the things you need answers to. If it’s a battle between needing closure and fear of their response, the best course of action is to face the fear and ask.
What do you get from staying silent? For me it’s a lot of anxiety, over thinking, and creating potential realities. That shit doesn’t do anything beneficial for me, it only distracts my mind from the present. Building up the courage to ask the question may not give me the answer I want, but it stops the questioning in my mind. Once the question is out, there’s no more room for over thinking because the answer is on the horizon.
It’s ok to be hesitant with certain things. If you’re considering the feelings of other people and you’re afraid to place burden on someone else, that’s a sign of your emotional intelligence. When this happens, it’s good to think it through before blurting it out. Take the time to consider your thoughts and desires before asking. The key though is that you can’t let the mind fester on this for too long. The question can’t stay locked away.
It is terrifying to ask what’s on your mind, but it necessary. If there are questions you need answers to in order to move forward, you have to ask them. Be respectful, express your thoughts and feelings, and ask what needs to be asked. Don’t expect every answer to be what you want, but know the answer you receive is the one you needed. You’ll be ok no matter what.
November 16, 2024
