We’re often blinded by desire and fail to see the flaws in what we want. We need to keep a clear head and adequately consider the things we actually want in our lives.
What are you currently chasing? What is the desire that seems to be just out of your reach? For some, it’s a new car, a new home, a relationship, a lean physique, higher pay… the list goes on and on.
As a Stoic, I know it’s unhealthy to desire more than what you have. As a human being, it’s tough to not wish for bigger and better. I’m well aware a person can be happy and satisfied with exactly what they have, but there are things in my life that I wish could be different. But as an attempt to be Stoic, I’m working on altering my mindset and putting things into perspective.
When my mind desires something and I feel like it’s just out of reach, it’s that much harder to not want it. It’s right there! Maybe if I just try this, do that, say this, I’ll have it finally. The mental spiral of desire spirals out of control until my focus is skewed and my anxiety takes control.
So how can you want something but not crave it, wish you had it, try everything and anything to achieve it, and think constantly about it? I think it’s a matter of seeing the full picture. You have to realize that, yes it may be a nice change in your life, but with everything good, something “bad” is attached. More responsibility, more effort, more work, less time, more caution…
The things we strive more may look awesome on the surface, but to limit our desire, we should look at both sides of the coin. See the good, but realize the bad too. The new job will bring more money and power, but also additional stress and responsibility. That relationship will bring fun times and connection, but may also bring tough conversations and anxiety depending on the healthiness of the partnership. The new car can bring fun drives and confidence, but also higher monthly expenses.
See your desires from all angles. Never look solely at the good that can come from them. Everything awesome comes with lame. So see the full picture, be grateful for what you have, and strive for what will truly benefit your life. It’s ok to wish for more, but never let the desires skew your focus or appreciation of the present moment.
September 2, 2024
