When creating a clear vision for your future, you’re going to experience internal turmoil. A crisis of focus.
You’ll realize everything you want out of life; you’ve visualized every detail. With knowing what you want, you realize what you don’t want. The drama, gossip, inconveniences, and other trivial matters no longer matter.
The crisis begins with a choice. A choice between focusing on your vision or giving attention to those who need it. Even though that may mean involving yourself in trivial matters as a way to help someone you love.
A part of you will want to drown out the external noise. “I don’t care about this. There’s work to be done!” you’ll say as your friend complains about *insert drama here*
The other part of you will feel shitty for thinking this way. You’ll feel like you’re being rude for not giving others time to vent. Your dissociation from the conversation and emotions will come off as condescending. It’s like you couldn’t care less and are brushing their feelings aside.
Yes, you don’t want to waste your time with these things. You realize they’re not important in the construction of your vision. Drama, gossip, and worrying about uncontrollable events are not a part of who you’re working towards becoming.
But empathy, compassion, and a desire to help others are a part of who you want to be. These emotions and abilities come with interacting with other people and listening to their struggles. Even if that means listening to petty drama.
You don’t have to indulge in it. You don’t have to brush your friend aside. You also don’t have to spend hours letting them rant.
Understand what they’re going through, make them feel heard, and if they’d like advice, help them focus on what they can control.
Your time is important. You have a clear vision for your future. A vision so big, you’ll want to focus fully on it and not waste any time. But life involves more than just you and your vision. Never neglect your loved ones for the sake of your vision. Your end goal has you surrounded by people who love you and ignoring people won’t get you there.
March 2, 2022
