You can’t rush this. As much as you want the hard thing to be over, it takes time, patience, and a lot of learning to make it through.
I’ve written about instant gratification in the past, but I’m thinking about it a lot more now. With 75 Hard, I’m checking myself in the mirror every morning and night, searching for any change in physique – something to let me know this is worth the effort. At the same time, as I try moving on from someone I was interested in, my mind and body are going through a lot of emotions that I wish weren’t here.
I wish I could just skip to the end. Just show me what I look like after the 75th day and make it clear to me this is worth all the work I’m doing. Make these hectic emotions go away! I know I’m not being logical, I know I’m amking assumptions I shouldn’t be, I know what I should be doing, but can’t I just jump to the day when she doesn’t even cross my mind?
These things are tough, but they’re a part of the human experience. We will all experience emotions we don’t want, manage challenges we wish we didn’t need to, fail at countless passions and hobbies in the pursuit of finding the one we love. We all have experiences we wish we could rush through and come out on the other side unscathed.
As much as we desire a quick outcome, most of the time that’s not what we receive. These challenges we face are all there to teach us lessons, build our strength, resilience, confidence, self esteem, self awareness, and make us a better person. We all want to skip the hard parts, but those are the moments that make or break us.
In those moments, we have to make a choice – let the emotions or challenges win or alter our mindset and try something different. We always have a choice and that choice determines how quickly you make it through whatever you’re going through. You cannot continue doing the same things and expect different results. You need to be willing to feel these feelings, acknowledge them, learn from them, and grow.
You can’t rush this. You have to experience these things. So you might as well make the choice to learn from them and work your way through. Have presence and patience in all moments and act as you should to come out on top.
September 10, 2024
